Surrender

by martyfogs on May 28, 2010

I vascillate between to polar opposite belief systems: that the universe is supporting me or that I’m running the show.

The higher reality is that I’m completely supported by a power outside myself, and its up to me to use my free will to align with the best values and energies available – and then to execute – act – do –  in alignment with these values, without compromise.

Its a game of continually surrendering my ego’s will for the will of greater possibility.

I cannot move forward without giving up something.  The better I can get at giving up and being open and willing to learn and grow, the easier my life has become, and the greater happiness I experience.

I will forget this several times within the next three minutes –  and instead operate from the position (like a giant two year old) of I’m in charge, and “this is wrong” – filling my system with a puzzling and exhausting emotional storm – making my life a lot harder than it needs to be.

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Where does “normal” come from?

by martyfogs on May 25, 2010

Think of a bell curve.  Everything under the middle hump of it is classified as “Normal”.

It used to be the Smoking cigarrettes was normal.  A few wacko’s on the fringe claimed that smoking caused cancer.  Then their ideas made it to the the next big thing, and soon these once heretical thoughts replaced “smoking” as the norm.

Now smoking is on the fringe.

Everything that is normal today was once on the Fringe – then it moved into the realm of the cool – then to the next big thing – then to social convention: normal.

Normal changes all the time – and it gets replaced with something that started at the fringe.

Not everything from the fringe makes it to be “Normal” – but all things normal start at the fringe.

Pick an area of your life.  What’s normal?  What’s on the fringe?  What’s on the fringe now that will be the new normal?

Get used to this way of seeing the world, and you’ll be less surprised, you’ll predict better, and you’ll anticipate future change better, too.

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Trading my life

May 23, 2010

On your deathbed I may be lucky enough to look back and be filled with joy and gratitude for the experiences I traded my life for.
That’s what happens in life:  we trade each day for experiences.  We trade each minute for experiences.  At the end, we’ve traded our lives for experiences.
What do I want to [...]

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Fish swim in water: we swim in challenges.

May 22, 2010

Life is a never ending opportunity for us to solve new challenges.
As we progress, the complexity and difficulty of the problems we solve, if graphed out, would look like a mountain range:  some easy problems, some difficult ones.
Great mountaineers look at all the routes to a peak then choose the best one – then along [...]

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I’m stuck

May 22, 2010

I’m stuck in an extremely unproductive state today.
I’ve got a TON of urgent files on my desk that demand my attention and focus… and today I can’t deliver.
I’m stuck.  What do I do?
I can plow through and force myself to get something done.
I can quit – go off and come back when I’m ready to [...]

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Hidden Fuel and obvious road blocks

May 21, 2010

Desire, determination, claiming a future reality as your own…. that’s the hidden fuel that drives people and gets things done.

What’s it feel like to feel this?  Have you ever felt this way?  About what?

Contrast that feeling to the feeling of fear.  The way we usually apply fear is a joke.  Fear [...]

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Overcoming resistance

May 17, 2010

Part of me doesn’t want to improve.
Thoughts tell me not to do the things I know I should do to reach my goal.
I can choose to believe or disbelieve these thoughts… but usually the thoughts act before I’m aware of them.
So even before I am consciously aware of what I am doing, I’ve already made [...]

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Swimming in frames

May 12, 2010

A fish swims in water – but it doesn’t know it.
Pull it out, and it’ll realize this.
We swim in “frames” – but we don’t know it.
The frames we swim in are the filters in our brains that give meaning to everything we encounter.
We are constantly framing each other – the media is constantly framing us [...]

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Mother’s Day

May 10, 2010

Mother’s Day, 2010.
Its 7:30 AM – Ellen gets up and goes to the healthclub.
It’s Mother’s day, and our plans for taking a bike ride are dashed due to the weather.
I’m practicing my habit of seeing myself as an event.  ”What does an event do when its plans fall through?”
‘Events don’t whine – events evolve’… and [...]

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I am an event.

May 9, 2010

Have you ever considered yourself as an event?
How would you have to look at the world to see yourself as an “event”?
Buckminster Fuller called my friend Marshall Thurber an “Evolutionary Event”.
Marshall challenged me to find the view of the world necessary to see myself as an “evolutionary event”.
First: I am an event.
Life is a series [...]

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